Thursday, July 12, 2007

On giving a rebuke, reproof, or admonition

A rebuke should be a catalyst for building a long-term relationship, not destroying relationship. Although it may hurt the relationship in the short-term, it will bolster the relationship in the long-term.

Although a rebuke may sound harsh, it should be an instrument of love given for the purpose of edification.

Explain the actions of the other person (give real examples) and their consequences on you.

Give actionable solutions.

If necessary, explain your motives why you're giving a rebuke. This is usually necessary when you have never, or very rarely, rebuked the person before.

Giving a rebuke is also helpful as a way to vent out your feelings and thoughts.